Toxic Mastery

I really feel that, as a community, we are failing our future generations by perpetuating this myth that there is both a hierarchy between masters / dominants as well as between slaves and subs. In my opinion this social cast system only serves to perp…

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My rant for the day:

The best definition for sex that I have ever heard came from the immortal Mae West when she said, “Sex is emotion in motion.” Why is this explanation so much more comprehensive than all the others? Because it includes the emotional component which we a…

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My Rant for the Day: Couples Privilege

My rant for the day: So I have to say that I am a little irritated by the lack of nuanced language around the subject of Cis gendered couples privilege. Why does it bother me? Because I, as a black kinky, poly Cis gendered male experience privilege in …

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Some of my worst moments

My rant for the day: this is going to be a throw back Thursday rant with a twist. ( I bare this rant satirically) I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for about 20 years and 17 of those years have been spent as a Pro Dominant. And let me say that I have h…

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Becoming worthy of sub

In my younger years I had a sub that loved Fireplay but wouldn’t put the flames in her mouth. I told her many times that fire wouldn’t burn her and I even demonstrated it a few times but no matter what I did she wouldn’t budge. So I thought about it fo…

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Creating space in BDSM

Mini rant: Let me preface this meme by saying, It’s about shifting the mastery mindset away from the traditional action to action trope that keeps us reactionary & moves us into an aspect to aspect contextually that is both proactive and sustainabl…

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Zen & Mastery

‪Zen and Mastery are similar in that they both believe in the adage, “ the more one talks, the less they know. “ If your not able to demonstrate your Mastery; then your not. ‬

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